Sojji, Bajji , Kaaram, Sweet, Coffee, Tea..

Let me restart 'Meyyaram' from the temp shut down. one day me and vijay were talking about something and the topic diverted to 'pen paarkum padalam' . One of his friend is ready for marriage and his parents arranged this ever great custom (kashtam). Mr. Vijay took the role of Mr. Vivek accompanying the hero for the sight seeing. He couldn't avoid that. Both were in the same frequency that this shouldn't have happened and we were discussing how embarrassing it would be for the girl. Later, I was thinking at what base this custom would have born. This could well be the reason. May be at those years, most of the time girls stick to home, those girls were denied the opportunity of hanging out like our millennium girls. Thus born this custom, it's a kind of intro to the people before wedlock. Fair enough.

But what's the need for this at 2006. Why our elders still arrange for this and why our boys still agree to this and why our girls still giving in to this. Alternative always exists. we are not against arranged marriage. It would make more sense, once if the elders finish the first stage talk, and if the boy and the girl are happy with other's photos and want to proceed further, can arrange a meeting somewhere relaxed. If the girl doesn't care about the boy's appearance ( I dont think there is anybody nowadays ), the boy can always see her somewhere without her knowledge. obviously, she comes out of her home everyday. vice versa (I am sure there is no boy who doesn't want to see the girl before anything happens) .

Arguably there is still an uneasy factor there. Say if the girl doesn't like the boy or vice versa when they meet, and if the proposal end there, one can rise the question how many times this relaxed meeting would take place. Unfortunately, this cant be avoided in an arranged marriage, unless someone wants to go ahead compromising. But this factor is still present in the old custom. Do anybody say NO.

The good thing about this relaxed meeting between the only two is, there is no sojji - bajji samachaaram, and no periyavangaluku namaskaaram panikarthu. According to me, It's horrible to namaskaaram to somebody you dont know. Age factor only doesn't gain you that respect, it's your thoughts. How a strange girl know your weightage in thoughts. simply for the reason, Premananda is above 50 years old. so what...

guys, your comments are welcome and more than welcome is your suggestions to avoid this abuse against girls ..oo.. I sounded strong. Why not ?